i knew this australian girl last year and when talking about aboriginals she was all “they need to get over it australia was colonised and civilised by white people and aboriginals are lucky to live here” but she would straight up cry about sharks like “i just can’t bELIEVE we cull sharks even though the ocean is THEIR home and has been since before we started wading about in it!! we don’t own the ocean! we go into their space and then KILL them just for existing….in their OWN habitat!!! it makes me sick”
it’s really true that white ppl are more readily able to empathise w animals than w POC …..mess
It’s this kind of broad generalization that antagonizes your allies.
If your status as an ally to POC is conditional upon us tiptoeing around you and always picking our words in case you take it personally and get offended by it then guess what….you’re not an ally. Your feelings are not our priority and it is the epitome of white privilege for you to expect them to be.
“You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy. You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.
If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way. Set fire to your old self. It’s not needed here. It’s too busy shopping, gossiping about others, and watching days go by and asking why you haven’t gotten as far as you’d like. This old self will die and be forgotten by all but family, and replaced by someone who makes a difference.
Your new self is not like that. Your new self is the Great Chicago Fire—overwhelming, overpowering, and destroying everything that isn’t necessary.”
1915, a cheerful group of Vassar College students gathering daisies for the annual daisy chain ceremony, a tradition that has endured at the college for over 120 years.